Hey Phillygirl,
Welcome to the forum. Some of the best ways to see real lights is to join some of the clubs and go on trips with them, i.e., New Jersey Lighthouse Society or USLHS - Chesapeake Chapter. My husband found the Chesapeake Chapter while he was following the progress of Cape Hattarus being moved back in 1999. There he found a trip the CC was running on his b'day so that's what we did for his b'day. It was a small trip...we drove to the park wherein Turkey Point is located. From there we drove to Havre de Grace and saw Concord Point. Then we got on a boat and went down the Chesapeake to Fishing Battery. We also got to see Turkey Point from the bay.

Ellie