Bert,
Plan it for the third weekend in October and do the NJ Lighthouse Challenge- the first and the best of the challenges!
Esther and I will be at Sea Girt as a NJLHS Volunteer on Sunday afternoon. Greg will be there all day on sunday, I believe.
Drive down and start on the Delaware River and stay overnight near AC or Barnegat and finish up in Sandy Hook on Sunday.
It's a great weekend trip. You probably can't get a Cape May Whale Watcher Cruise in then but that will give you a reason to spend the weekend in the Cape May area at another time.
Dennis